Self-compassion can be seen as three things, which we can practice regularly.
Kindness – Understanding our struggles and pain; being kind to ourselves especially when we make mistakes or fail rather than being harshly self-critical and judgmental. Talking to ourselves kindly and with compassion can help us bear our difficulties more easily. When we are unkind we cause ourselves ‘unnecessary suffering’.
Common humanity – This means having a certain perspective where we understand that our experiences are part of the human condition; they are not meant as punishment, something we deserve because we have done something wrong. We are not being shamed when we feel angry, depressed, anxious, or afraid. We are simply having a human experience.
Mindfulness – The awareness, the non-judgmental acceptance of whatever is happening to us right now. This includes our painful feelings. It is also means not becoming overidentified with our problems, where we lose perspective and tend to catastrophize what’s happening – making things worse.